Essay about Bell Hooks Incorrect Stance On Punnishment

Our society allows police, council officials, and other busy bodies dictate how parents should raise their children. A scolding, smack in the face, and a spanking on the butt are all forms of punishment. A punishment is a tool used by parents to discipline their children for misbehavior. Abuse is a commonly thrown around term that offers an inflated meaning to punishment. bell hooks states in her article that a parent cannot â€Å"love† if they are â€Å"abusive.† Care for individuals’ actions is love; if a child is not reprimanded for bad behavior then the parent is further being abusive. Each and every parent loves their child and to have people dictate on how to raise their child is acceptable to a point. bell hooks deals an absolute, which is†¦show more content†¦She proclaims that she was confused about her parents love for her and her siblings. This idea that hooks offers is, why punish if you love? Love has everything to do with punishment, with out this â€Å"abuse† youth would be under the assumption that actions have no consequences. Parents are primarily concerned for their children’s future, where a child ends up is a reflection upon the parent. I have two nephews of the ages 4 and 1. The 4 year old, named Rustin is as wild as they come. With no apparent discipline, by my brother or sister-in-law he will undoubtedly become a ruthless youth. My brother tells me that he does not want to hit his son, because he doesn’t want Rustin to hate him. My nephew loves my brother with the upmost conviction, but what my brother does not see is that he is giving Rustin an injustice. Without the stern presence of a father, you can never expect a child to grow and develop properly. Children’s brains are constantly developing, and to enable your child to realize the consequences of their actions will prove invaluable. The future of my nephew is still uncertain, but I know unless my brother starts â€Å"lovin g† my nephew a little more he may have a difficult time in society. â€Å"If you dont behave youre going to get a good hiding!† She doesnt mean it literally of course† (Author Unknown: Discipline, â€Å"tough love† and child abuse) Parents often threaten their children with a punishment in order to convince them to stop. It is common